Sometimes we all tend to have anger issues. WE all have days where we would like to punch the cashier at Walmart for being rude and not moving fast enough. But in all reality, most sane people would never haul off and punch them. When you see people in public act a fool at times, you think how trashy they are?
But sometimes there is a necessary time to defend your self or your family. I feel like you can only take so much before someone finally loses their cool. When we are young, when we are in our teens and early twenties, it is somewhat acceptable to fight, or be in fights. They are just being kids, they are young.
Now, being 30 years old and married for almost 10 years. WE have 2 kids. One who is school age, who have friends that have parents that know us. So, now it is a little bit harder to feed into our impulses and take the first swing. If you got arrested years ago, no one knew it unless you told them. "I went to jail the other night" Until "Crime Times" My husband affectionately calls it the "Yearbook". This makes everyones stupid infractions public. Therefore it now too effects our children.
It is truly hard to go from a hard ass don't take no shit attitude and tone it down to not reacting to the instigating. That is a giant leap to adulthood that makes us feel like we are bowing down to the other person. It doesn't feel good, it feels like we are letting ourselves down. In reality, we are being the bigger person. We are growing up. We are doing what is best for our family as a whole. When you become a family, It is no longer about just you! Leave the bar fights to the people who have nothing to lose. I myself have plenty to lose. And I certainly wouldn't want to lose anything for the lame pieces of shit out there.
Sometimes we don't see it right way, but being the bigger person will always pay off in the end.
But sometimes there is a necessary time to defend your self or your family. I feel like you can only take so much before someone finally loses their cool. When we are young, when we are in our teens and early twenties, it is somewhat acceptable to fight, or be in fights. They are just being kids, they are young.
Now, being 30 years old and married for almost 10 years. WE have 2 kids. One who is school age, who have friends that have parents that know us. So, now it is a little bit harder to feed into our impulses and take the first swing. If you got arrested years ago, no one knew it unless you told them. "I went to jail the other night" Until "Crime Times" My husband affectionately calls it the "Yearbook". This makes everyones stupid infractions public. Therefore it now too effects our children.
It is truly hard to go from a hard ass don't take no shit attitude and tone it down to not reacting to the instigating. That is a giant leap to adulthood that makes us feel like we are bowing down to the other person. It doesn't feel good, it feels like we are letting ourselves down. In reality, we are being the bigger person. We are growing up. We are doing what is best for our family as a whole. When you become a family, It is no longer about just you! Leave the bar fights to the people who have nothing to lose. I myself have plenty to lose. And I certainly wouldn't want to lose anything for the lame pieces of shit out there.
Sometimes we don't see it right way, but being the bigger person will always pay off in the end.